Mom in My Corner

Once you reach a certain age, you think you don’t need your mom anymore. I will always want her in my life, but I didn’t think I needed her in my corner the way I did when I was young. I didn’t think I needed her cheering me on. It was my turn to be there for her, so I thought.

She’s a spunky 88 years old. Our conversations and time together has changed over the years. We can’t shop for hours like we used to do. We don’t take the kids and walk the neighborhood like we used to do. Now, I worry about her health, preventing falls, and keeping her safe.

My sister sent me a text message saying she was bringing Mom up to hear me preach. I was shocked. It is hard to travel that far. I’m about an hour away from her. I was touched that she wanted to hear me and make the trip. I felt her love and encouragement. The tears started to roll down my cheeks as I realized I still need Mom in my corner.

It’s easy to forget, as an adult, what it feels like to have someone cheer you on. It’s easy to forget that God is my corner cheering me on.

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. (Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV)

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (Isaiah 41:10 NIV).

Yes, I still need mom in my corner, but more so, I needed to be reminded that God is in my corner. I always have Him cheering me on. I always have His encouragement. I am never alone.

It’s easy to think of God being there for me when times are tough. He’s my rescuer, my comforter. It is hard for me to think of God being proud of me. Why is that? I need to remind myself that He made us in His image, that His works are wonderful. He desires our success. He is cheering us on.

13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well. (Psalm 139: 13-14 NIV).

I have to force myself to imagine it, and when I do, it makes me smile. It fills my heart with joy. It’s worth taking the time to see God in our corner. Try it. You might be surprised.

Who is cheering you on? How is God in your corner? SHare your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

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He Chose You

This is a bit of a divergence from my usual posts. The audio is about 17 minutes long. It is for anyone who has every struggled with forgiveness especially God’s forgiveness or forgiving self. If you are still carrying around guilt and shame this is for you. If you don’t have the time, I encourage you to read Psalm 32 multiple times and hear what God is saying to you.

As we approach Easter, this is a helpful reminder of why this season is so special to many of us. Enjoy the Joy of Forgiveness.


Thanks for endulging this divergence. As always, share how God has brought you to forgiveness and breathe life and bring hope to others.

Parent’s Heart

Something profound happens when one becomes a parent. Love overwhelms the heart. We gain a parent’s heart. We want the best for our kids. We make decisions. We guide. We set boundaries. We teach right from wrong. We strive to impart only the best parts of ourselves. The problem is we fail at least I have.

In an effort to raise young adults who are compassionate, self sufficient, and grounded in faith, I have put them under pressure. I have sent the wrong message. What was intended to teach was received as inadequacy.

Recently, I was wallowing in self guilt feeling like I failed my kids. My logical brain knows there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Proclaiming unconditional love is often received as conditional. I haven’t done a good job of knowing when to push versus guide. In all honesty, these are my feelings. I have no idea how my kids have received my version of parenting. I want my parental guilt replaced with a parent’s heart, a parent’s heart that is molded by God.

The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. (Jeremiah 31:3 NIV).

God’s love is perfect, unconditional, giving, guiding, provides boundaries and leaves us feeling whole, valued and worthy. I need to forgive myself for my shortcomings, learn from God’s unfailing love, and share that love with others.

Forgiving myself has been one of the hardest things for me to learn to do. I struggle to let go of hurts I cause other particularly my children. I know God forgives me as soon as I ask, but my heart often doesn’t want to let go. I have learned to say to myself, “I forgive myself.” I have to be that explicit for my heart to change. It seems strange, but it works.

A parent’s heart that is God’s heart is the goal. I remind myself that I am forgiven and that I forgive myself. I’m done with parental guilt for today, anyway. I am a work in progress.

How have you struggled with guilt? How has God changed your heart? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

Change My Heart

It happened again. Anxiety took over. There was no logic behind it. I became a puddle in a good old ugly cry. I didn’t come to the answer on my own. With the work I’ve been doing with a professional, it became clear that as a teenager I had decided that I was unlovable, unworthy of love. All I could think was change my heart, God.

The tears continued to pour out as we talked through this pivotal moment. I had decided it was safer to be alone than let others in. Is was safer to alone than seek approval from others. It was safer to be alone than trust God’s love.

An unconscious decision as a teenager changed my heart toward, myself, others and God. It caused me to put up a wall, a wall between myself and others, as well as, a wall between myself and God. I knew His teachings and believed in Him, but kept him at arms length.

Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. (Psalm 51:10 NIV).

26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. (Ezekiel 36:26 NIV).

I wanted to change this subtle underlying belief that was still impacting my life. I wanted to claim this scripture from Ezekiel as a promise for my heart. I wanted to continue to chip away at the wall I had put up between myself and God.

I was invited with eyes closed to envision Jesus taking all the hurt and feelings of being unworthy. I saw Him wrapped in white lights to bright to look at absorbing all the hurt and pain. I was then told that Jesus had a gift for me. She asked what it was. I told her He handed me a diamond. She asked why. He said it was because I’m precious. I was overwhelmed by what a simple guided meditation could do for my heart. At the same time, I knew this is exactly what God would do to let me know how great His love is. This is exactly what He would to do change my heart.

Have you heard lately that you are precious? Are you in need of a changed heart? Cry out to God. See what He has for you. You are precious in His sight.

Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

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Refuge



Yet another snow storm strikes. Everyone I know is sick of snow, shoveling and poor road conditions. When I’m out in a storm, I just want to get home. There is something about home that calls to me when I’m away. That calling multiplies when storms hit. I want to get to where I’m safe, warm and protected. It’s my place of refuge, but it’s just a building.

Refuge is a condition of being safe or sheltered from pursuit, danger, or trouble. It is something I seek in when storms hit. I want shelter and safety. It can be a building, but I can’t take it with me. I have to go out. I have to leave my place of comfort and safety. I have another source of refuge that never leaves me. I want that sense of comfort no matter where I am or what I face. God is that source of refuge that I can seek at any time.

God is our refuge and strength,
    an ever-present help in trouble.
Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
    and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,
though its waters roar and foam
    and the mountains quake with their surging. (Psalm 46:1-3 NIV).

You, God, are my refuge and strength. You are where I run when Iife is hard. You are where I turn for comfort. You are the source of peace in my heart. You are the calm in my storms. You are always with me even in the midst of life’s turbulence.

As I seek to restore my heart and calm anxieties, You are with me. As I face difficult memories from my childhood, You bring me comfort. As I explore the choices of a young girl trying to make sense of the senseless, You push away the fear.

Why would You hold me up when I want to crumble to the floor? Why do You wipe the tears off my face? Why do you bring strength when I feel so weak? Why, because You always keep your promises. You want me to share those promises with others. You want to be everyone’s refuge in the storm.

Where do you go in a storm? How has God been a refuge for you? Share your story here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

I Believe in You

I hear the bedroom door open. I hear the deep rumble of his voice. My heart starts to pound. I want to run in and rescue. I try to calm myself down, but the feeling of weight on my chest continues to grow. My logical brain knows that I am safe and that everything is okay. My body, however, is responding to what it thinks is an imminent threat. My body is in a state of fear and wants to run. I know that hearing actual words and not just the tone of voice helps, so I mute the TV. I hear, “I believe in you, I believe in you.

In 20 plus years of marriage, I have never been given a reason to think that someone would get hurt. Thankfull, my wonderful hubby understands that this fear and anxiety comes from a little girl within me who would hear that tone of voice and know it meant someone was going to get hurt.

When I heard him say, “I believe in you, ” I began to cry. The disconnect between my cognitive/logical brain and my body’s visceral response has finally become too much to fix on my own. Not only was my husband telling my son, “I believe in you,” but I also heard it as God saying, “I believe in you.”

“One last shaking, from top to bottom, stem to stern.” The phrase “one last shaking” means a thorough housecleaning, getting rid of all the historical and religious junk so that the unshakable essentials stand clear and uncluttered. (Hebrews 12:17 MSG.)

Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:8-9 NIV).

As God has been encouraging me to deal with these fears, I have held on to scripures like these. God promises to clean out this historical junk and He promises to be with me every step of the way. Taking these steps have come with reluctance, fear, and anxiousness. Deep inside is this little light filled with hope. A light that knows what God can and will do for his beloved. I have often said that there is nothing special about me and yet He brings me through these challenges everytime without fail. I have hope that this time will be the same.

Do you need to hear God say, “I believe in you?” Listen carefully, He is.

What are you facing that God is bringing you through? How is he molding your heart? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

A New Path


I was headed down a path. It seemed like the right path to be on. It was predictable. I didn’t like everything on the path, but it felt normal. I got used to moments of anxiety and fear. They didn’t happen very often, but they were there. I needed a new path.

I, of course, thought I could fix myself. I tried different techniques from EFT (tapping) to meditation to calm the fears, to feel safe. They helped. Acute anxiety and fear would diminish, but a low level of anxiety and fear became ever present. It became more easily triggered. A mere tone of voice could put me over the edge into panic.

Why would I panic? What was it about a tone of voice? It had nothing to do with the present moment. It had to do with my childhood and a dad who could be very angry, excessivly angry. The little girl who witnessed that level of anger has heightened fight, flight or freeze system.

God’s been reminding me that I don’t have to do this alone, and that I could be rid of this faster with help. I’m not good at asking for help. It’s even harder to admit I need help. It’s easy to direct others to proper care, yet I still resist it for myself. Even sharing this here has been a wrestling match. God reminds me there is healing in sharing, there is healing in a new path.

28-29 Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. He’s actively cleaning house, torching all that needs to burn, and he won’t quit until it’s all cleansed. God himself is Fire! (Hebrews 12:28-29 MSG).

This is the scripture God brought me to when this journey started. He is not an indifferent bystander. He cares about my fears and anxiety. He wants me to feel safe. He has brought me to a new treatment/therapy. It’s time for me to get back to work on me. It is hard. I didn’t want to be in this place again. But, I know He keeps His promises! I know the joy and freedom that comes from doing the work. I so look forward to feeling restored again. I am ready to embrace a new path.

Trusting God can be a difficult leap for some of us. Sometimes He asks us to engage in something that feels too hard. Emotional wellbeing effects every aspect of our lives and He is committed to helping us clean our inner house. I’m reminded how hard it is to take the leap and humbled to share it with others. Here I go again :0)

What are you ignoring within yourself? Is God calling you to an inner house cleaning? Are you struggling to say yes to the work? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

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Never Alone

We all want to go where everybody knows our names. We want to feel loved and cared for. We want to know we matter to others. There are so many times in life when we feel alone, or that no one understands our pain. The truth is we are never alone. 

It’s easy for the stresses in life to leave us feeling isolated and alone even with people around us. When this happens to me, I tend to pull away rather than reach out. I tend to retreat into my head making to do lists and fixing all the problems around me. I don’t speak them out loud. Sometimes they come out sideways at my kids and hubby. Sometimes I let small fractions of what I’m feeling out just enough to keep the pressure under control.

I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
    where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
    the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip—
    he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel
    will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord watches over you—
    the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,
    nor the moon by night. The Lord will keep you from all harm—
    he will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your coming and going
    both now and forevermore. (Psalm 121: 1-8 NIV).

This scripture grounds me. It reminds me that God is with me even when I try to isololate myself. God is with me when I retreat into my thoughts. He reminds me that I am never alone. He watches over me and is my shade. He even reminds me that keeping it in and isolating myslef is not a healthy way to handle the stress.

There is comfort in knowing He’s there even when I feel alone. There is comfort in knowing that He is paving a way through the stress. There is comfort in knowing that when I retreat, He pulls me forward. I am never alone.

What do you do when you feel alone, stressed and wanting to retreat? Where does your comfort come from? Do you know that you are never alone? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

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Deceived

The weather has packed quite a punch these last couple of weeks in Minnesota. We have gone from record breaking cold temperatures to accumulating about 10 inches of snow over a couple of days. Traveling on the roads has been treacherous and not advised. It’s easy to be deceived. However, a girl cannot miss a haircut appointment.

I headed out after a six inch dumping of snow ready to be patient and go slow. My rig handles winter roads pretty well, so I was confident of a safe arrival to my destination 12 miles from my house. Part of the journey was on a divided highway. I gingerly took the exit and slowly accelerated. I was impressed with the road conditions. They were remarkably clear. I was certain I was on dry pavement. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

I came up on a large truck that had spun 180 degrees into the ditch. Even though I wasn’t traveling at a high speed, I took my foot off the gas. All I could think was, “How did that happen?” As I was coasting, I could tell I was gaining on the car in front of me. While there was still plenty of room, I gently tapped my breaks to slow down further. The antilock system instantly kicked in and the vehicle started to shift slightly, side to side. Holy crud, I was on glare ice.

I have been driving on crummy winter roads for decades and never have I been so deceived. My heart was pounding as I continued to gain on the car in front of me. Due to a car in the left lane, I had to tap my breaks one more time before being able to move over and coast past the car I had been approaching.

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities,against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvationand the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. (Galatians 6: 10-18 NIV).

We never know when life is going to throw us icy roads. We need the proper tools and preparation to handle it just as keeping the armor of God allows me to have the tools to be prepared to navigate life, to see deception, and have hope in the face of all things.

It is easy to be deceived. How do you stay prepared? What kind of armor do you use? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

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Frozen

Minnesota has recently experienced a deep freeze. We are used to cold and snow in the winter, but we have achieved new extremes. As I write this it is -25 degrees, and when you factor in the windchill it feels like -51. That is an absurd level of cold. Schools have been cancelled for today and tomorrow. Business have closed, and even mail service is cancelled for tomorrow. Time has frozen.

Earlier two fawns made their way into the backyard sniffing around for fallen crab apples in the snow. Days like this, when everything comes to a halt, gives me time and space to reflect and what matters most. We have acquired four additional teenage boys for the night which brings strange noises and much laughter. Hubby and I have had time to just sit together. Even though the need to get work done is still there, the pace is slower. Time has frozen.

Most days, time moves at lightening speed. Work, school, church, more work fill the days leaving me to wonder where to fit in family and friends. Where do I put what is most important in life? How do I get it off the bottom of the “to do” list? Why is it even on the “to do” list? How do I focus on what God wants me to focus on? I needed today to remind me of this scripture, of what is most important. Time has frozen.

7-11 Everything in the world is about to be wrapped up, so take nothing for granted. Stay wide-awake in prayer. Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything. Be quick to give a meal to the hungry, a bed to the homeless—cheerfully. Be generous with the different things God gave you, passing them around so all get in on it: if words, let it be God’s words; if help, let it be God’s hearty help. That way, God’s bright presence will be evident in everything through Jesus, and he’ll get all the credit as the One mighty in everything—encores to the end of time. Oh, yes! (1 Peter 4:7-11 MSG).

It took the world around me to literally freeze and suspend time into slow motion to think through what love looks like in my life. It took suspended time to remember love is cultivated by being together in intentional ways. How do I keep this at the center when time leaves this suspended state and returns to its frantic pace? Keeping prayer and devotion time at the top of the list always works for me. Allowing God to order my days rather than the “to do” list never fails. God’s bright presence becomes evident in everything. Communing with those I love takes place without effort. Being frozen has recommitted me to time with God each day to be able to do what matters most.

How do you stay focused on what matters most? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.

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