Facing Loss

LossLoss many times happens quickly and unexpectedly. Loss can also be a journey. It can happen over a long period of time. Facing loss, embracing the journey is something I have found myself woefully unprepared for and at times overwhelmed by the emotions.

When someone dies, we expect to walk the path of grief. Even though it is a different path for everyone, it is understood. What about facing loss? We know that final sense of loss and grief is coming. Whether it is a long drawn out illness, a divorce or even job change, the mind and body know it’s coming and the process of grief begins.

This past week I have been overwhelmed will feelings of sadness and a weight on my chest brought on by changes in my mom’s health. These emotions have caught me off guard. I didn’t know what to do with myself or even begin to process what I was feeling.

I know, Lord, that your laws are righteous,
and that in faithfulness you have afflicted me.
76 May your unfailing love be my comfort,
according to your promise to your servant. (Psalm 119 75-76).

As hard as it was to pray, I clung to what I know is true about God. He will bring me out of everything. He will use everything that I am going through for His good purposes. I know that clinging to Him will bring joy, peace and comfort in the midst of facing loss. Those promises are coming true already.

We don’t talk about the grieving that begins before the loss happens. We are able to consider the future even though we can’t predict it. Our bodies, minds and spirits, begin to prepare and adapt for what the future holds. This is a normal process. I think the key is not to let ourselves get stuck the mire of the grief and miss out on what today has to offer.

The website whatsyourgrief.com gives some helpful reminders for what is called anticipatory grief.

  1. Acknowledge the loss
  2. Connect with others (and God)
  3. Remember this doesn’t mean you are giving up
  4. Communicate
  5. Take care of yourself

Facing a loss of any kind can be a difficult road to navigate. Theses reminders help us not get stuck and help us walk the journey thoughtfully and with care. I have needed my family and my faith to walk this road. I couldn’t do it without either.

Are you facing a loss? Have you already walked this road? What helps you manage the emotions? Share here and we can encourage each other.

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