Complicit is Reah Bravo’s deep dive into the complex and intricate details of women making difficult decisions in an attempt to “handle” male bosses. She articulates the stories of women trying to navigate impossible situations not intending to be complicit.

As I read this comprehensive look at the attempt of women to end gender discrimination, to stand up to narcissistic men, and shine a light on sexual assault it is apparent we have simply gone in a circle. True progress seems elusive, and I was left looking at my own complicitness.

There was much familiarity in the stories. I was instantly brought to places and decisions of the past. It was uncomfortable to examine my own judgments and the many times I perpetuated the cultural norms I thought I was fighting against.

⁸ But he’s already made it plain how to live, what to do,
    what God is looking for in men and women.
It’s quite simple: Do what is fair and just to your neighbor,
    be compassionate and loyal in your love,
And don’t take yourself too seriously—
    take God seriously. (Micah 6:8 MSG).

This scripture makes it sound so easy. “Do what is fair and just.” Yet, the society I live in tells me to look out for myself, to do what is in my best interest and I deserve it. Jesus doesn’t tell me any of those things, so I wrestle with being complicit with the norms I dislike and the ones that are clearly an injustice.

Each decision I make is either a reflection of compassion and love or my individual wants. It seems simple but all too often it is complex. As this book outlines, I am reminded that cultural influences run deep within us and the call to be counter cultural as Jesus was takes continual reflection with the intention to do better.

Have you taken time to see how you have been complicit with societal norms that you think your are working against? Are you willing to examine your decisions, your judgements and do better? Share your story here and breathe life and bring hope to others.