
A safe haven is a place where the world’s hurts fall away. It’s a place where our brokenness can be raw and gently held. It brings comfort and hope when anxiety brings distress.
I have struggled to feel safe with others. With most people, I always hold part of myself back. I watch, listen and learn their way of being in a space and I mirror that with a pieces of myself in reserve. While I regularly share personal experiences in public venues, that is after I have processed it for myself so that it no longer has a hold on me.
7-8 God holds the high center,
he sees and sets the world’s mess right.
He decides what is right for us earthlings,
gives people their just deserts. 9-10 God’s a safe-house for the battered,
a sanctuary during bad times.
The moment you arrive, you relax;
you’re never sorry you knocked. (Psalm 9:7-10 MSG).
Yet, God knew what I needed. He knew what would restore my heart and allow me to know I was safe. It wasn’t immediate. It grew over the years. I would slowly and carefully reveal something I was carrying deep within. At times, it was with fear that he would see me differently and even not want to be married to me. Every time, he responded as if God was speaking directly to me. Every time he saw me. Every time, he responded with love and grace.
I knew God was a safe haven, but I didn’t feel it within my being until my husband tangibly expressed it. Knowing that it is safe to shine light on the dark crevices of my person has been profound in my journey to wholeness.
When God created us in their likeness (Genesis), it means we have the opportunity to put our own experiences aside and be a divine gift to others. I am so grateful to have my husband as my safe haven, but I question if I create a space for others to feel safe.
All of us need a safe person. I do believe that is critical to our sense of wholeness. Do you have that person? Are you willing to be vulnerable enough with someone to let God show you what safe feels like? Share your experience here and breathe life and bring hope to others.